Following a seven-year marriage, Heidi Klum is leaving her husband, Seal. Her reasons aren't the same as a typical celebrity divorce. TMZ reports that friends say Seal's temper, not infidelity, is to blame.
Klum seems to have put up with her singer husband's temper until it started to affect their children. The couple has four children; the oldest is Klum's from a previous relationship. So far, no reports have addressed child support or child custody arrangements.
The news came as a surprise to many. Klum and Seal weren't shy about their public displays of affection, and they renewed their marriage vows every year.
It looks as if the deal breaker for Klum was Seal's anger. The "deal breaker" is more than the last straw. It's the one thing above all others that is simply not tolerated.
Family therapists agree it is a good thing to recognize what a romantic partner's deal breaking habit is. This helps the individual to understand what went wrong in the relationship, and what can be done to improve the situation. Therapists also encourage men and women to understand that it is time to walk away if the partner with the habit or issue is not working on it, not trying to be a better person for himself or his partner.
It's important to know, too, that experience can change a person's deal breaker. What we are looking for at 25 has changed by the time we hit 45. People change, and so do deal breakers.
Still, there are a few common deal breakers. Men watch out for women who are independent or inflexible and women who don't take care of themselves. Women won't tolerate a man who cheats or lies, who lacks a life plan, or who is too frugal.
Source: Huffington Post, "Heidi Klum And Seal Divorce Over This 'Deal Breaker,' What's Yours?" Jan. 23, 2012