You can be one of our Illinois readers or live somewhere else in the United States, but if you are going through a divorce you are in the same position as many others.
Since everyone is unique, however, no two people are going to deal with the divorce process in the exact same way. The way that you process a split may not be the same as the next person. Some will view this as the end of life as they know it, while others realize that this is an opportunity to move on and do bigger and better things.
There are many ways to approach a divorce, and the strategy you devise will determine how you move forward with the rest of your life.
Some people avoid their emotions altogether, and in many cases it is these people who have the best chance of recovering quickly from a divorce. These people have the ability to cut things off in a hurry and move on with the rest of their life.
There are people on the other side of the equation who hang onto sorrow for a long time. They think about what their ex-spouse is doing, they ponder the good times they had together, and some take things as far as following the person online.
There is nothing wrong with either approach to the divorce process. Everybody is different, meaning that everybody has to handle this in their own way. By being responsible for the way you act and approach this difficult time, you will eventually move on.
Source: The Huffington Post, "You're Approaching Your Breakup All Wrong -- Here's How To Do It Right" Katie Parsons, Apr. 19, 2014