Divorce may be notorious for court battles and vengeful spouses, but, thankfully, this stereotype does not have to be a reality. More and more options are becoming available for ending your marriage in a cooperative and amicable way.
Even so, divorce is still hard under the best of circumstances. Try these self-care ideas to help you get through it.
See a professional
Although divorce is costly, you can see a counselor with the savings from splitting up amicably. It is worth your emotional well-being, which helps you stay productive at work and home. Friends and family are great supports, but only a licensed counselor professional or mental health provider can help you process through tough emotions in a safe, effective manner.
You can also see a church leader if you are religious. He or she may be able to point you to additional resources.
Journal your feelings
Journaling is trending right now for good reason. Research shows it provides numerous benefits to your physical, mental and emotional health. Writing every day allows you to identify and work through your feelings. It also helps you organize your thoughts and think of solutions to problems. It utilizes both the analytical and creative sides of your brain, especially with the more artistic-oriented styles of journaling that are becoming popular.
As you write down worries, memories, triggers and the like, you will also get to know yourself better, which is an important part of recovering from divorce. All these benefits help to reduce your stress and depression.
Make healthy daily choices
Diet and exercise are for more than just losing weight. They also boost your happiness. Other important things to do to take care of yourself include:
- Getting enough rest
- Not overbooking your schedule
- Practicing mindful meditation
- Starting a new hobby
- Avoiding addictive substances and behaviors
- Reaching out when challenges arise instead of isolating yourself and obsessing about it
Remember, you are important and deserve time to yourself doing something that aids in managing life after divorce. Your actions serve as a good example for your children, as well.