When an Illinois couple is experiencing marital problems and contemplating divorce, the issues that sparked the strife can be complicated and difficult to get beyond. It may seem simpler to go straight to court. For many couples, however, negotiation and divorce mediation can be a better option.
Often, the most difficult part is getting a reluctant spouse to agree to take part. It is important to be prepared to explain why mediation could help. It is not necessary to have a deep knowledge about the process, but a basic understanding as to why it could benefit is useful. Communication regarding mediation is also key. If the spouse is stressed or has other things on his or her mind, pressing them about divorce mediation could spark a negative response. However, there are alternative communication methods like email or a text message. Discussing it with the mediator before speaking to the spouse could provide ideas.
After gathering information about divorce mediation, sharing it with the spouse can enlighten them as to what it entails. The benefits should be listed to make a strong case. These benefits include affordability and having an increased influence on the outcome. Forcing the other spouse to take part will generally prompt a negative response when the goal is to settle the issues amicably.
Foundational points should be talked about. That includes the expected cost, what steps are needed to prepare and the duration of the process. These depend on the situation, but it is advisable to take it seriously and have a grasp as to why the marriage is troubled. Many divorces can be settled with the help of a mediator. Meeting with an attorney to discuss the possible benefits of divorce mediation is the first step.