You want to get a divorce, but you don’t want the drama. You’re not looking to blame your ex or spend a long time in court fighting over the details. Maybe you even want to be friends after the marriage is over. Maybe you have children and you’re trying to insulate them from a difficult experience. Regardless, you’re looking for a peaceful divorce.
It is possible. If you make it a goal up front, you can work to achieve it. Here are a few things you should do:
- Respect your spouse at all turns. This isn’t about winning or making sure that you look good. It’s not about getting even or winning an argument. Respect them and ask for the same in return.
- Consider all of your options. For instance, you may find that using mediation is naturally more peaceful than going to court.
- Be open and honest. One of the main keys to this type of divorce is communication. Try to work with your spouse so that you both feel like you’re working toward the same goal.
- Talk with them about your vision for the divorce. You may find that you have a lot of common ground regarding what you want. One of the most common ways that couples do this is by shaking hands and agreeing that they both just want to do what is best for the children whenever they can — but you can still do it even if you do not have kids.
As you strive for this peaceful divorce, you do need to fully understand what options you have.