It is never easy to tell your children that your marriage is ending. Even if they are old enough not to be surprised, you have to choose your words carefully. And, according to parenting experts, you should adapt your message depending on your child's age. You can tell a teenager that you and your spouse are splitting up and you have opted for a collaborative rather than a litigated divorce. With a toddler, though?
In our last post, we started talking about an innovative business in the Netherlands. The company offers divorce mediation services for couples. Nothing new, certainly -- except that couples meet at four- or five-star hotels for three days to work out the settlement.
In the 1939 version of The Women, Norma Shearer travels to a dude ranch in a western state (known as a gambling mecca) to get divorced. She must stay there for a while, to establish residency and to relax a little, to live quietly as she plans her new life. Other women soon join her, all in the throes of divorce, and the drama that ensues at that ranch is more delicious than a Chicago Dog on a warm spring day.
The first of the baby boom generation are turning 65 this year. In Illinois, boomers make up between 20 and 25 percent of the population -- about the same as the U.S. If you look around your neighborhood or your workplace, try to figure out how many boomers you know have been married to the same spouse for 20 years or more. The numbers are dwindling, it seems, giving boomers a higher divorce rate than any generation in history.
People often comment on how difficult divorce is for those of limited means. But the fact is, divorce does not have to be expensive - but it can be equally taxing for wealthy people if they are not careful as they go about the process. Nor does divorce have to be a hurtful process. Sometimes, working with a mediator can make it go much more smoothly.
A recent report called The State of Our Unions discusses the health of marriages in America. The joint study was conducted by the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia and New York's Center for Marriage and Families at the Institute for American Values.According to the report, the chance of divorce varies based on your personal and social circumstances, including financial circumstances. You can improve your odds of staying married by having a college degree, coming from an intact home and waiting to have kids until after you are legally married.